Barry O'Connor

We are hoping to be matched with a surrogate who prioritizes a fairly healthy lifestyle, and is committed to maintaining healthy pregnancy habits. Our preferences include someone with a stable home environment and a strong supportive personal network, who is a non-smoker (and does not use any nicotine products, has a BMI that supports a healthy pregnancy, has already had at least one successful pregnancy, and is aged no older than 45. However, we recognize that every surrogate is unique, and these preferences simply reflect what we would feel most comfortable with as intended parents, but are happy to be considered by people who don't necessarily fit this exact profile.

We place a high value on evidence-based medical care, and trust the guidance of qualified medical and healthcare professionals throughout pregnancy. We hope to be matched to a surrogate who shares this approach, and is comfortable following medical recommendations that are intended to support the health and well-being of the pregnancy and the baby. This includes any vaccinations or treatments that are recommended during pregnancy for the benefit of the baby, unless there is a medical reason not to do so. At the same time, we respect that our surrogate has autonomy over their own body and medical decisions, and we would never seek to override them or pressure them regarding their own personal healthcare choices. Ultimately, we want to approach this journey with our surrogate with trust, open communication, and the shared goal of giving the baby the healthiest start in life.

We understand that decisions regarding termination are deeply personal and often incredibly difficult. We believe that any decision should be made thoughtfully, compassionately, and in consultation with medical professionals. If prenatal testing or medical evaluation were to reveal a condition that would significantly affect the child's quality of life, such as a serious genetic or chromosomal disorder, or a major physical abnormality, we would be inclined to consider termination.

We know that these situations are very emotionally complex, and we respect that a surrogate has autonomy on their own body, and we would never pressure them into a procedure that would leave them feeling vulnerable. However, our hope is to match with a surrogate whose views on these difficult circumstances are broadly aligned with our own, so that, if an unexpected situation were to arise, we could approach it with open communication, respect, and a shared understanding.