Intended parents

Adrien Grey

Doing their journey in Canada

About them

We’ve been together for over nine years and balance each other in all the best ways. One of us is endlessly curious, the other endlessly creative. One of our dogs is a total extrovert, while the other is sweet and cautious. Somehow, it all fits. We’ve spent the last several years hoping to become dads, and after an unexpected loss, we know more than ever that this isn’t just something we hope for, it’s the life we’re determined to build.

Relationship status

Married

We met in New York over nine years ago, when Alex was working in finance and Adrien had recently moved there to work as an art director. We bonded quickly over a shared love of trying new things, exploring the city, traveling, and, at the time, mezcal.

We’re very different in a lot of ways, but that has always been one of the things that makes us work so well. Alex is endlessly curious and loves researching, organizing, and figuring things out. Adrien is creative, intuitive, and happiest making things and bringing people together. We’ve grown up together in many ways, supported each other through big career changes, moves, and the ups and downs of trying to build our family.

We got married at the very beginning of COVID in an outdoor ceremony overlooking the Brooklyn Bridge, with our friends and family joining virtually. It wasn’t the wedding we had originally imagined, but in hindsight it feels fitting. Life has thrown us more than a few curveballs since then, and each one has shown us how strong we are as a team. We’ve become each other’s safest place, biggest support system, and steady constant through all of it. That kind of love and partnership is what we hope to bring into our future family too.

Their journey

Home area

Los Angeles, CA, USA

Approximate area

Journey country

Canada

Financial preparedness

We’ve approached surrogacy with a lot of planning, including financially. We’ve set aside a dedicated budget for the journey and are prepared for both expected costs and the unexpected ones that can come up.

We also want our surrogate to feel fully supported, without worrying about being out of pocket or chasing reimbursements.

Embryos

Yes.

We currently have three embryos ready for transfer. After our previous journey ended unexpectedly, we also took steps to create additional embryos, which we expect to have available before the end of 2026. We wanted to be proactive so we can move forward with as much flexibility and security as possible.

Clinic

Tripod Fertility

What they're looking for

Their hopes and requirements for a surrogate

Requirements

Our clinic will ultimately determine medical eligibility, but ideally we’d love to work with someone under 40 who has had a healthy, uncomplicated pregnancy within the last five years. Previous surrogacy experience would be a wonderful plus, but isn’t a requirement.

A strong support system is especially important to us since we may not live nearby. Above all, we’re looking for someone who is medically well suited to the journey and feels confident and supported in her decision to be a surrogate.

The relationship we hope to build

More than anything, we’re looking for someone who feels certain about her decision to be a surrogate and is committed to seeing the journey through.

We value honesty, reliability, and clear communication. We’ll be attentive and supportive throughout the process, while also respecting our surrogate’s independence, family life, and personal space. We don’t have expectations about what the relationship has to look like beyond that and are happy to let it develop naturally in whatever way feels comfortable for everyone.

We also want to stay open-minded. After waiting so long to become parents, we care much more about finding the right person than checking every box on a wish list.

Vaccination information

We don’t have rigid vaccination requirements beyond anything required by our clinic. In general, we’re comfortable following the guidance of the fertility clinic and the surrogate’s OB throughout the pregnancy, and we’d hope to work with someone who is comfortable doing the same.

Views on termination

We believe decisions around termination should be discussed openly and agreed upon before beginning a journey. We would consider termination or selective reduction in the case of a serious fetal abnormality, or when continuing the pregnancy poses a significant risk to the life of our surrogate or the baby,

The intended parents

Adrien Grey(He/Him)

36 years old

Communicates in

English

Occupation

Creative Director

Sexual orientation

Gay

Fun facts about me

Growing up on a farm in Winnipeg, I'd help take care of a rotating litter of wild kittens.

I'd pick a grocery store over a museum any day.

We once hosted a casual TV-show viewing party, and I baked a four-tier cake... only realizing afterward that the recipe was intended to be a wedding cake.

I’ve been known to have full-on conversations with our dogs. I swear I can tell what they're thinking!

Interests and hobbies

I’m lucky that I genuinely love what I do. I run my own creative studio, and I get to spend my days being creative, helping people solve problems, and finding new ways to bring ideas to life.

Outside of work, I love cooking and baking, especially when there are people to feed. I’m known for making unnecessarily elaborate turkey dinners at completely inappropriate times of year, and I love how food can bring people together and create traditions and memories.

I also love running, exploring, and spending time with Alex and our two Shibas, Niko and Soba, but I’m a homebody at heart. I love having friends over, cooking for people, and making home feel warm and full. I’m always up for trying somewhere new, but I’m just as happy returning to an old favorite or curling up under a blanket with the dogs.

What friends say

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My friends would probably say I’m the person who notices the little things. I remember what people like and usually have a plan for just about everything.

They’d also tell you that once I care about something, I’m all in. That applies equally to my work, my family, our dogs, and our journey to becoming dads. I can be very disciplined and organized, but I also don’t take myself too seriously and joke around with the people closest to me.
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(He/Him)

36 years old

Communicates in

English

Occupation

Payments Strategist

Sexual orientation

Gay

Fun facts about me

In another life, I think I’d be a researcher of some kind. I love learning, and if something catches my interest, I can easily lose a couple of hours going down a research rabbit hole.

I’m very competitive (with myself) about finding a good deal.

I lived in Paris for a few periods in my life. My dad is French, so France has always felt like an important part of my life. I’d love to share that connection, and the language, culture, and memories that come with it, with my future family.

Interests and hobbies

I love traveling, planning adventures, spending time with friends and family, and learning new things. I’m the person who can turn a vague idea like “maybe we should go somewhere next month” into flights, a hotel, dinner reservations, and an itinerary before Adrien has finished the sentence.

I practice yoga, love exploring new cities, and am always looking for a great restaurant, neighborhood, or experience we haven’t tried before.

At home, I love having people over. Some of my happiest memories are long dinners with friends and family where everyone stays at the table much later than planned. Adrien is usually the head chef, and I proudly serve as sous chef, cleanup crew, bartender, and enthusiastic taste tester.

And, of course, a significant amount of my free time is spent negotiating with two extremely opinionated Shibas.

What friends say

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They'd probably say I’m the one bringing people together. I love introducing friends who I think will get along and organizing dinners or trips.

My friends joke that I’m the dad of the group because I’m usually the one they call when they need help figuring something out. Mortgage question? I’m happy to talk it through. Buying a new car? I might end up calling a few dealerships and helping line up appointments. Trying to use credit card points for a flight? There’s a good chance I’ll make a spreadsheet. I just like being useful and making things a little easier for the people I care about.
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