Laura Elcock

The right surrogate for us would ideally be between the ages of 25 and 40 and in good physical and mental health. Most importantly, we’re looking for someone who feels like the right fit for this very special journey — someone kind, caring, and comfortable taking this on with us.

We would need someone who has previously had a successful live birth, with the dream scenario being someone who feels their own family is complete. ❤️

A few of the practical requirements from the fertility clinic are:

• Any previous pregnancies would need to have been healthy and without significant complications.

• No more than five previous C-sections.

And then there’s the bit I (Laura) really don’t love talking about, because you are so much more than a number on a scale. Unfortunately, fertility clinics do have BMI guidelines that we need to work within. Ideally, our surrogate would have a BMI between 19 and 35.

We know these criteria can feel a little clinical, especially when what we’re really looking for is a wonderful human being. But we promise we’re not trying to create a perfect checklist. We’re simply trying to find someone who is medically suitable and, hopefully, feels excited and comfortable about being part of our little team. 💕

Personality-wise, we’re looking for someone who is warm, open, honest, and comfortable with communication. You absolutely do not need to tell us about your poops (we promise!), but we would really value regular check-ins and updates throughout the journey. And equally, we want you to feel that you can come to us with any questions, worries, concerns - or even if you just want to chat. We love chatting. 

We’re also hoping to find someone who enjoys a fairly active lifestyle, takes good care of their mental health, and makes an effort to keep stress to a minimum. Most importantly, we’re looking for someone who is genuinely altruistic and understands what an incredible gift they would be giving us.

This is a big journey to take together, so it’s really important to us that we naturally get along and feel comfortable around each other. We like to think we're pretty cool. We’re kind, we love to laugh, and we’re probably a little bit weird (in a good way). Adam is very much the glue that holds our family together. Laura likes to joke that she is the personality hire in the marriage. Adam can tell you how to change a tire or make a beef Wellington from scratch, following a recipe with military precision. Laura, meanwhile, makes up little songs about the dogs, likes to fart around in the garden, and considers recipes to be more of a general suggestion than a set of instructions.

We don’t expect our surrogate to be exactly like us. But we’d love someone who feels comfortable being themselves around us, who enjoys a laugh, and who feels that we’re people they would genuinely like to share this extraordinary experience with. ❤️

We are firmly pro-vaccine! We are both up to date on all vaccines, including Covid, and will be fully vaccinating any future children. To us, this is the responsible thing to do and in both the child's best interest, as well as the broader public interest.

We understand that there are those with differing opinions on this, however we would require any surrogate to be on the same page as us regarding vaccines, and to be fully okay with the child being vaccinated throughout their life.

At the end of the day, we firmly believe in a persons right to choose when it comes to their body, including whether to terminate a pregnancy. However, we also realize that this is a bit murky when it comes to surrogacy, as it would be YOUR body carrying OUR baby. As such, we would have very clear terms laid out by our fertility lawyer, to avoid any future issues.

Overall, your health comes first. You are giving us the gift of life and family, and we are endlessly in your debt. We would terminate the pregnancy should there be any significant risk to your health - full stop! Any other termination decisions would be medically informed and agreed upon on, as a group.