Maria N

We are pursuing an independent journey and would ideally love to connect with someone in Ontario, although we’re open to other provinces for the right match.

Based on our clinic’s guidelines, we’re looking for a surrogate who:

• Is approximately 21–43 years old

• Has a BMI below 35

• Has experienced at least one healthy pregnancy and delivery

• Has had no more than five previous births and no more than three previous Caesarean deliveries

• Is a non-smoker and non-drug user and lives and works in a smoke-free environment

• Is comfortable with a hospital birth

Beyond the medical requirements, we’re ultimately looking for someone who feels comfortable and excited about pursuing a journey together.

Open communication is probably the most important thing to us.

We want to be able to talk openly about anything and everything throughout the journey, and we want our surrogate to feel equally comfortable coming to us with questions, concerns, changing feelings, or anything else that’s on her mind.

We’d love to be very involved throughout the pregnancy and attend appointments whenever possible while always respecting our surrogate’s autonomy, boundaries, and preferences.

Ideally, we’d also love for our relationship to continue beyond the pregnancy and become a lifelong connection. At the same time, we understand that every surrogate has different preferences around post-birth relationships, and we’re flexible about what that connection ultimately looks like.

We’re comfortable discussing vaccinations openly with our surrogate and following medical recommendations throughout the pregnancy.

We would want to discuss any vaccines specifically recommended by the treating physician during pregnancy. We don’t have a particular preference regarding annual flu or COVID vaccinations and would rather have those conversations together and with the medical team.

We know this is one of the more difficult but important conversations to have before entering a surrogacy journey.

We would consider termination if our surrogate’s health or our baby’s health were seriously at risk, or if significant medical circumstances were expected to substantially affect the baby’s quality of life.

We would want these decisions to involve careful discussion with our surrogate and the appropriate medical specialists so that everyone understands the circumstances and feels heard and supported.